Commonplaces from Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
Posted on September 12th, 2020
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Self-restraint
Compassion
Adept
Inept
motere move
e- away
Two minds:
Thinking head rational
Feeling heart emotional
Harmonica head and heart
Critical
Condescending
The marshmallow test:
Impulse id desire gratification
Restraint ego self-control delay
Social chameleon
Terry Dobson train story
Emotional realities his and hers
John Gottman
Aaron Beck, founder of cognitive therapy
Stonewalling to
Marital advice
Bookmark
Keeping the discussion on track
Empathizing
Tension reduction
Calming down
Detoxifying self-talk
Non defensive speaking and listening
Attack vs. attempt to change behavior
Empathy: actually hearing the feelings behind what is being said
Mirroring
Thoughts
Feelings
xyz
When you did x it made me feel y and I’d rather you did z
Innocent victimhood
Righteous indignation
Validation:
I see you’re upset
Compliments